The wrong impression that the Guru had more than one wife was created by those writers who were ignorant of Punjabi culture. Later authors accepted those writing s regarding more than one marriage of the Guru and presented this as a royal act. During those days kings, chiefs, and other important people usually had more than one wife as a symbol of their being great and superior to the common man. Guru Gobind Singh,, being a true king, was justified in their eyes to have more than one wife. This is actually incorrect.

In the punjab there are two and sometimes three big functions connected with a marriage, i.e. engagement (pg83) wedding and Maklawa. Big gatherings and singings are held at all these three functions. In many cases, engagements were held as soon as one had passed the baby stage.

Even today engagements a 8-12 years age are not uncommon in some interior parts of the country. The wedding is performed a couple of years after the engagement. After the wedding it takes another couple of years for the bride to move in with her in-laws and live there. This is called Maklawa. Dowry and other gifts to the bride are usually given at the time of this ceremony to help her to establish a new home.

A big befitting function and other joyful activities were held at Anandpur, according to the customs, at the time of the engagement of the Guru. The bride, Mata Jeeto ji, resided at Lahore which was the capital of the Mughal ruler, who were not on goo terms with the Gurus. When the time for the marriage ceremony came, it was not considered desirable for the Guru to go to Lahore along with Sikhs in large numbers. Furthermore, it would involve a lot of traveling and huge expenses, in addition to the inconvenience to the Sangat, young and old, who wished to witness the marriage of the Guru. Therefore, as mentioned in the Sikh chronicles, Lahore was 'brought' to Anand Pur Sahib for the marriage instead of the Guru going to Lahore. A scenic place, a couple of miles to the north of Anand Pur was developed into a nice camp for the marriage. This place was named Guru Ka Lahore. People going to Anand Pur visit this place as well. The bride was brought to this place by her parents and the marriage was celebrated with a very huge gathering attending the ceremony.

The two elaborate functions, one at the time of engagement and the other at the time of the marriage of the Guru, gave the outside observers the impression of two marriages. They had the reason to feel like that (pg84) because a second name was also there, i. e., Mata Sundari ji. After the marriage, there is a custom in the Punjab to give a new affectionate name to the bride by her in-laws. Mata Jeeto Ji because of her fine features and good looks was named Sundari (beautiful) by the Guru's mother. The two names and two functions gave a cause to the outsiders to believe that the Guru had two wives. In fact, the Guru had one wife with two names as explained above.

There is one more very important function in the life of the Guru and the Sikhs. It took place in 1699 when the Guru founded the Khalsa Panth. For preparation of Amrit, he took a Khanda and a Bata (iron bowl) and asked for Mata Sahib Kaur to bring Patasas (puffed sugar) for adding to the water in the Bata. Thus Guru Gobind Singh and Mata Sahib Kaur jointly participated in preparing AMrit. Along with firmness like steel, sweetness is another great character of the Khalsa, gifted respectively by Guru Gobind Singh and Mata Sahib Kaur to them. Where as Guru Gobind Singh is recognized as the spiritual father of the Khalsa, Mata Sahib Kaur is recognized as the spiritual mother of the Khalsa.

Again people not conversant with the Amrit ceremony mistakenly assume that Mata Sahib Kaur was the wife of Guru Gobind Singh. As Guru Gobind Singh is the spiritual but not the physical father of the Khalsa, Mata Sahib Kaur is the spiritual mother of the Khalsa but not the physical wife of Guru Gobind Singh.

Because of their ignorance of the Punjabi culture and the Amrit ceremony, some writers mistook these three names of the women in the life of Guru Gobind Singh as the names of his three wives. Another reason for this misunderstanding is that the parents of Mata Sahib Kaur had decided to marry her to Guru Gobind Singh. When the proposal was brought for discussion (pg85) at Anandpur, the Guru said that he could not have another wife because he was already married. The dilemma before the parents of the girl was that, the proposal having become public, no Sikh would be willing to marry her. The Guru agreed for her stay at anand Pur but without accepting her as his wife. The question arose, as every woman desires to have a child, how she could have one without being married. The Guru said, "She will be the mother of a great son who will live forever and be known all over the world." The people understood the hidden meaning of his statement only after the Guru associated Mata Sahib Kaur with preparing AMrit by bringing Patasas. It is therefore, ignorant to consider Mata Sahib Kaur as the worldly wife of Guru Gobind Singh.

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Guru Gobind Singh was 9 years old at the time of his Gaddi. Born Dec22 1666, His father Guru Tegh Bahdur was martyred 11th of November 1675.

Historically there will be many contadictions found in many events.. One must then try to glean the truth. The above presentation seems to have many points in favor of its reliablity, and is the only information this one has been able to find written on the wife/wives of Guru Gobind Singh... Mother of The 4 Sahibzada and Mother of ONE body of Khalsa